I met Peter Russell when I was just 15 years old whilst on a family holiday down in Cape St Francis in the Eastern Cape. He was 21 at the time and he and his crew from Cape Town were the ultimate teenage heroes. They had long hair, surfed, ate bully beef out of a can, wore skull rings and slept under the hobie cats on the beach!
Who would have thought that an invitation to the Bruniquel abode for a braai would land up in a collection of lifelong friends. After nearly eating us out of house and holiday home, our visit came to an end and we packed up for Durban. I left Cape St Francis with a heavy heart and a few new addresses in my diary. I so clearly remember my Father telling me they would never write back, so I would like to take this opportunity to say “I told you so Dad!” This was long before the days of cellphones and e-mail, and for a good couple of years we all wrote to each other. We wrote actual letters on actual paper and posted them with actual stamps – twenty one years of friendship thanks to snail mail!
Our lives have danced together and apart over the last two decades. We all lived in Cape Town for a period during my university days, then I was based in London for a while whilst travelling all over the world. In between the silences there have been visits, phone calls and more recently Facebook! We have seen each other through the good the bad and the ugly. There have been fashion disasters, Saturn returns, break ups, break downs, babies and careers. In amongst all of that there has been deep understanding and love. To have remained friends for so many years is a blessing and privilege and I feel so lucky to have walked through life this far with Peter and the gang.
I digress though, as Peter and the gang changed some time back. Whilst I was still living overseas I heard rumors that Peter had hooked up with a wild child. Her name was Nicole Daniels! I cannot remember the exact day that Nicole and I decided to be friends but we have never looked back. She has more facial expressions than a Bollywood actress, she laughs louder than opera singer and is as excitable as an over-stimulated child but her soul runs deep and she sees the world with a wisdom that inspires me to be gentler. I just adore her!
Peter and Nicole have had two little girls, Ajua Luna and Zara, and I knew that my life would be intertwined with theirs the minute that I heard they were born.
To the Russell Daniels ……I love you more than words could ever say. You are my people!!! You are my heart!!!
Ok … onto the Non-Wedding Wedding! Nicole and Peter are anything but conventional and so it follows that their wedding would be anything but conventional too! They stripped the idea of a wedding down to basics and only incorporated the elements that were important to them. What was important to them was that their closest friends and family were there to bear witness to their commitment. This was a wedding that was about people and about love. It wasn’t about flashy shoes, pinterest, or styled décor.
They invited about 20 of their absolute nearest and dearest to their actual marriage ceremony which was held in the late afternoon on a Friday at ZenSA Lodge in Scarborough in Cape Town. This was followed by a delicious meal and lots of wine which erupted into a spot of spontaneous dancing. The following day hazy heads were dusted off with a trip to the beach and then there was an afternoon tea party in the garden for around 80 guests. The tea party was perfectly Peter and Nicole. The sun blinked at us while soft jazzy tunes drifted over the mountain, guests sipped tea and coffee from the Barrista Bar, there was a ping pong table, delicious homemade cakes and nibbles. But most of all there was love, tears, hugs, laughter and more love.
This wedding was very personal experience for me and one which I will never forget.
PS Peter is a very talented photographer and videographer check out his work here
And now for the credits in the brides own words ….
But none of it would have been possible without the help of willing friends and family!! Firstly, it must be known that Peter and I were together for 11 years before both of us realised we could get married. But, it was such a foreign concept that even though our hearts said yes, our minds struggled to catch on to what that entailed – and whilst being married was not what concerned us, the getting married part really did.
To give you a sense of the ways in which circles of support grew around us to facilitate us having the wedding, its worth noting that because much of our immediate family lives overseas, the date had been set so they could book and pay for flights ahead of time. This meant that our procrastinations were anxiety provoking not just for us, but for those across the oceans as well. So that when my friend Nikki Froneman stepped in, she literally become my bridal doula whose love and conviction helped bring our ideas to life, actualising their essence.
Our ideas were born of the notion that, it’s so rare having our families all together, that we wanted the occasion to last for as long as possible, hence the idea of a wedding weekend! We also happen to think that home is where the heart is, and derive the most meaning from celebrating occasions which lie at the heart of relationship, in our home. With an expansive sense of our home address, we began searching for a venue location somewhere across the far South Cape Town peninsular that felt right. Zensa Lodge in Scarborough was just the place. They could accommodate our close family and friends, was a stones throw away from the beach, had an ethos and attitude very similar to ours, and most importantly was fully geared towards children. But they needed some encouragement and we needed to make some serious adjustments for the fit to be just right.
Much of our wedding planning – because it was so hands on required constant
Thanks to everyone involved for the most exquisite celebration of love.
Hanging garden & Bride’s bouquet: Opus 072 785 6002
Brides Dress: Macy’s
Groom’s Suit: (he wore a suit? hahaha)
Wedding Rings: Fire petals
Marriage celebrant: Patrick Boucher: 082 641 8700
Coffee Station: Ilana
Wedding Décor: Theme Creations 021 788 6385
Masseuse: Linde Wilson: 074 122 7991