Any Regrets on your wedding day?

Stu and I recently got engaged and so now I am going to be on the other side of the camera!!! We are probably only going to get married in 2013 and we are slowly starting to work out what our priorities are. I decided to put a question out on facebook and the results were just too good not to share. I asked “Did you have any regrets about your wedding day?” Here’s what people had to say! Please feel free to add to this by adding a comment if the mood takes you.

Erica Barker i regret not having long hair…

Shan Truter I regret not having a big “princess” dress πŸ™

Natasha Lassen that i didn’t go to bed earlier the night before… i went to bed at 3 am in the morning!! and uhm…. that we didn’t hire an independent professional photographer dedicated just to doing our photography! ha ha…. can you believe…

Yvette Gilbert Not having a videographer

Bex Berra Not having 2 more close friends as bridesmaids. Silly – should have asked them!

Estie Thirion Had the worst wedding photorapher!!

Mike Bootes Just doing it !

Melanie Geyer Matthews not getting to eat any of the food! we were to busy chatting! luckily we got a pizza on the way to our honeymoon!

Angela King having my husband as the DJ (jokes he was great … kinda), wish I had my veil on top and not under my hair-do. And I forgot to mention my new parents-in-law in my speech!!!

Chantel Bridger Spending so much time and effort doing all the decor ourselves, was gr8 to get my family involved and looked awesome but didn’t have enough time to just spend enjoying the moment with everyone!

Katie-Jayne Vorster No regrets but would have been nice to also have had a videographer. Oh and the guys were supposed to have a cream rose bud on their lapell but as I walked up to the ceremony all I could see were freakin CARNATIONS! My worste!!! Haha! And… Wish wedding was 2 days, too much fun to be had in 1 day!

Kate Steyn I sweated the small stuff- so unneccessary, your guests dont know what its meant to look like anyway!

Janine Buccimazza Redfern Not getting any of our wedding cake – was all cut up and given away before the end of the evening can u believe! πŸ™ also not taking 5 mins out to just sit with my hubby and take it all in. It went by so quickly…oh and not managing to finish one drink. Kept getting a drink and then running off for a photo or chat and losing it! Ha

Kim Van Loo That my family werent there πŸ™

Judy Jacqueline Wentzel Um…caterers ‘stole’ platters of food out the back door for another function!!
Fridges broke down..champers was warm…photographer lost the negatives. Um…seriously too the wedding dress was jinxed…had to add on,take in and alter…yes that’s normal if its days before but the maker was almost insistant that I get my dress minutes before dress up time!!!!??? Fortunately I insisted that I will try on the day before the wedding…I also walked around the venue on the day putting my candles in the flower arrangements….I was 19 and a tad doff….wish I could redo my day…we have lasted 30 years tho :)))

Fiona Verity Lindsay Wang The day was to short and I was to busy, time flies when you are having fun πŸ™‚

Belinda AraΓΊjo Have a very relaxed evening the night before & early to bed, even if you can’t sleep πŸ˜‰

Katharine Considine Forsyth Hmmm..actually, I don’t really have any regrets…little things like the vases the florist got being much bigger than I wanted, etc, don’t really matter! It was a great day. πŸ™‚

Bernice Thorn I regret not saying anything… on the day everything was too emotional and overwhelming, and I didn’t want to cry in front of 120 people… so I binned my speech. If I could do it again I would love to say a few words, thank my parents and friends and tell everyone how much I love my husband.

Glyn Collins Yep, I only regret I didn’t meet and marry my wife earlier. and….. Obviously, though our phot’ was good, we should have had you!

Robyn Clabrough No regrets, no speeches, no small stuff to sweat over, loved it!

Melissa Hey Jacky see you planning your wedding I got marriend in May down in Jbay on the beach, it was the Best time eva especially for the boys as the Surf was cooking, any ways it was challenging organising everything from here But Defiantly worth all the effort as most of the guest came a week before and we were all on hoilday there. Which was really special as we put a lot of time effort and money into our special day and it goes so fast! Enjoy all the planning , savor each moment and don’t forget to enjoy each aspect of your wedding on the day, take a moment to sit back and watch your guests, it will make u smile watching them enjoying it!and don’t forget to taste all your food!! X x

Chrisine Meintjes that it wasn’t a 48 hour day! I didn’t want it to end!

Bride with a Blog Not eating enough! haha! Amazing food, but I couldn’t even touch it thanks to nerves #hungrybride

12 Comments

  1. Vanessa Booyse on September 29, 2011 at 9:51 am

    I dont have any regrets, buy someone gave me some great advice just before my wedding, that I should conciously take mental pictures of special things i see and want to remember, because even the best photographer cant see things exactly the way you see them… and because of this I’ve got the best memory of my hubby’s face when I was walking down the isle πŸ˜‰ …maybe I actually regret not ‘taking’ more mental pics πŸ˜‰



  2. rebecca on September 29, 2011 at 9:58 am

    Awesome! I can’t tell you what I do regret, but I can tell you what I DON’T regret … I don’t regret ditching a whole bunch of traditions so we could just relax at the reception. Also don’t regret ditching a traditional wedding cake for a variety of cakes, pies and other treats. Happy planning Jax, your wedding is going to rock πŸ™‚



  3. Robyn de Beer on September 29, 2011 at 11:04 am

    If I could do it again I would probably do lots of things differently – not because I have any regrets but just because my tastes have probably changed since then. But looking back and remembering the day as it was – NO REGRETS, It was perfect!



  4. Mikayla on September 29, 2011 at 11:25 am

    I regret not spending a little extra getting my hair and make up done up properly. I regret not having a longer photo session with my husband, cos I was too worried about the guests being bored… I regret not being more adventurous with my wedding dress. More than that though – the day goes by in a blur, it’s important to sit for a few minutes and take it all in. I do not remember the ceremony at all, but that’s why a dvd of the wedding is a good idea πŸ™‚ Blessings as you plan your wedding! And Congratulations!



  5. Lisa W on September 29, 2011 at 11:34 am

    Well I have been pondering over this question since you posted it and I can honestly say I dont have any regrets. Yes, maybe I would have changed some decor things…and only because since we got married there has been such a move to being more creative and unique but on a whole we loved EVERY moment and we had the best photographer in the world to capture all our magical moments!!! xx



  6. Alexa on September 29, 2011 at 3:27 pm

    Nothing at all! I was very lucky to the last of 4 kids so I was VERY much prepared for the day having gone through 2 of my sisters’ weddings. It goes so quickly, just make sure it’s about you and your hubby, nobody else! Oh, and plan an amazing honeymoon!



  7. Kerry Rasmussen on September 29, 2011 at 3:57 pm

    Well one thing I don’t regret is my choice of photographer! You rocked… But one thing I would do differently is slow down and relax more, stress less and take more notice of things. It’s so overwhelming that u feel like your heads in the clouds. The day really flies by too fast! I also regret not saying anything… Afew words to my family, friends and new hubby!



  8. Chanelle on September 29, 2011 at 7:39 pm

    I wish I had done a small speech to thank my parents for who they are and how well I get on with them. I lost my Dad to a sudden heart attack two years after my wedding, he was only 54! I wish I had a pro video of him walking me down the aisle πŸ™ def get a video done…



  9. Natalie Martyn on October 5, 2011 at 9:01 am

    Hey Jax

    Well, we have our wedding coming up in March; and it has been so useful reading people’s regrets and thoughts. I feel fairly confident that we have kept our integrity in the planning process and that we will have few, if no regrets. It’s difficult to keep perspective especially when there is so much emotion involved, from all parties concerned. We have eschewed alot of the traditions and moved away from the formulaic stuff; why do what everyone else always does? Do what you want. It sounds so simple doesn’t it? You’d be surprised though. I’ve seen many an eyebrow raised in horror at my decisions to not have a cake, or a garter, or a bouquet throwing tussle to Beyonce’s ‘All the Single Ladies’. My wedding day is not a show with a predetermined script; and my relationship doesn’t fit into a neat, little box of stereotypes.

    Stay true. How then, could you possible have regrets?

    Can’t wait to meet again and discuss oh I don’t know, life, art and me digging Mike out of a hole πŸ™‚

    Love Nat



  10. Sarah-Marie on October 25, 2011 at 5:00 pm

    I regret not getting married in the morning (11:00) !
    If I could I would streeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeetch it out as long as possible , it was such a wonderfull day just too short



  11. Sarah Schmidt on December 1, 2011 at 3:22 am

    1. I regret not asking for help. I didnt want to seem vulnerable & did most things on my own. I should have asked for more help (decorations, placements, how thing were supposed to be set up, designated a person that everyone could go to with problems besides myself).

    2. Invited less people & not feel obligated inviting people that we didnt really want anyways. Would have rather had a smaller wedding. Just CLOSE family & friends. My mother-in-law put it perfectly when her other son didnt invite her to his wedding at the court house, ” did it hurt…yeah. But I never stopped breathing and life went on. People will get over it and move on, and if they dont, they’re not worth having there to begin with.”

    3. Not making time for myself at any point of the day/night.

    4. Not having a voice. When everything went wrong I didnt speak up the way I was feeling. I was still being “too nice” and pushed around.

    GOOD LUCK to you on your wedding aand wishing you, your family, and fiance the best! make 2013 ROCK!



  12. Daisy on June 4, 2012 at 4:54 am

    I married my beautiful husband one week ago. I overall loved my wedding day and felt beautiful, however, I have a long list of regrets. I am an extremely analytical person and there are so many details that did not live up to my vision, I am having a hard time getting over it.

    1. I regret planning my wedding in less than four months. I wish I had spent al year planning it as I would have been under less pressure and made allowances for things that I ran out of time for. I am an impatient person and did not want to wait a year to marry my hubby. I wish we had gone quietly to the courthouse to get married (b/c I couldn’t wait πŸ™‚ and then taken a long and relaxed time to truly create the wedding. Instead I picked everything quickly, venue, colors, dress styles etc. Also many details were never even addressed (see #2), no time

    2. I regret picking a Deejay off of craigslist. He talked a good game, priced well and I didn’t really consider how vital he was to the whole event. He was awful, terrible, embarrassing. What a regret! I also never met with him before hand and never gave him a detailed rundown of the evening, so even if he hadnt been terrible, it would have been difficult for him to perform as I envisioned.

    3. I regret spending so much time on DIY decorations, and barely focusing on anything else. On top of that, the day of was so rushed b/c we were setting the venue up ourselves (wish I had booked a venue that allowed us to decorate the day before, would have taken care of soo many regrets) while trying to get hair and makeup done, that I did not get to oversee how the venue was being decorated (by friends and family), that most of the decorations (especially for the ceremony) were not set how I wanted them. This bothers me surprisingly more than it probably should, mainly because I put so much into the decor and now looking at pics I don’t even like it. I want to scream: wrong, wrong wrong. But I don’t want to seem ungrateful to everybody that helped

    4. Day of coordinator/point person!! Almost all of my regrets would probably not have happened if I’d had a DOC

    5. Not insisting on getting in all the RSVPS and just estimating guest count. I set out waay to many chairs at ceremony,which made it look like nobody showed up πŸ™

    6. Not smiling more during ceremony, holding boquet up too high (speaking of which, I loathed my bouquet, but it was a gift from my grandmother so I had to use it even though I had planned on using a fan as a bouquet like my bridesmaids.), walking too fast, not having my daughters/flower girls stand up during ceremony so photog could get them in pics and also be in video (bc I was advised against it). They were so cranky immediately after ceremony they changed into play clothes and I do not have even one picture of my husband and our three daughters together! (doing a photo redo session to get this photo)

    7. I regret relying soo much on my mom. She was wonderful, but it was her day too and I feel like she had a little too much responsibility

    8. Hiring friends/associates for catering and cake. Super dissapointed in my cake, but felt awkward saying anything since it was an associate. Same thing with caterer. There were a few issus, but again I don’t want to hurt his feelings.

    9. Not gathering up everyone I wanted in photos (bridal party and immediate family) into private area right after ceremony, with drinks and appetizers so that we could get relaxed professional photos. Instead everyone was everywhere and is was incredibly STRESSFULL trying to get pics.

    Well… i really could go on longer. In conclusion, I go back to my first point. I wish I had taken my time to plan and organize and save and tackle each specific area so that the vision that I had in my head could have become the reality, rather than a chaotic jumbled version of my vision, lol. But my husband is glad its over and in a way I am too. I do plan on a kick ass five year anniversary party, which I want to start planning soon so that I will have all the time I need to make sure it is just what we want



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